How to
Make a Great Conversation with a Small Talk
The best conversationalists in this
world are the best listeners NOT the best talkers.In fact, the person who
says the least is often the best communicator yet you are there racking your
brains thinking of things to say all of the time!
This is the BEST tip I could
ever give you if you want to be an excellent communicator:
BECOME AN
EXPERT LISTENER
When you become an expert listener is
means that the other person is doing most of the talking, with only one thing
on your mind – THEM.
To build up rapport and to engage in a
conversation ask questions and be intrigued about the other person not you.
You let them do most of the talking
and by doing this they will think that you walk on water and will in turn ask
about you and that’s when YOU talk!
It is important to understand what
other people like to talk to about.
1. THEMSELVES!
People love to talk about themselves.
Get them to talk about their favorite
subject – THEMSELVES!
“What are YOU currently doing career
wise?”
“Do YOU enjoy it?”
“Tell me about this…..”
“I hear YOU have been doing this……”
2. THEIR OWN OPINIONS
People love to air their opinions on
anything and everything.
Ask these questions as
well and your new friend could be talking for hours!
“What do you think of the
way they have played this year?”
“What is your opinion on that
thing?”
“What do you think of this
programme?”
3. OTHER PEOPLE
People love to talk about other
people.
Some people call this
gossip; other just call it talking about other people!
“What do you think of abc
person?”
4. THINGS
Next on the pecking order
is talking about things.
No matter what it is your
friend will have an opinion on it.
“I love YOUR car, how long
have YOU had it?”
“What do YOU think of this
widget?”
“I love YOUR jacket, where
did you get it from?
5. YOU!
It’s a horrible thing to say but the
last thing people want to talk about is
YOU!
Keep the conversation centered around
the other person until they ask
about you and then it is your turn.
To keep their full attention wait
until they have finished talking about
themselves and they have asked you a
question.
Then you can talk.
When you do talk however, link it into
what the other person has already
said and you will really be making
magical rapport.
PLAN of
ACTION
Don’t worry about what to say just go
into each conversation with the
other person in mind.
Listen and ask questions about the
other person.
Then ask some more questions!
Think about “YOU” instead of “I”
Talk about the other person’s favorite 5 subjects in order!
Don’t talk about yourself until the
other person asks
Have fun!
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